Building Positive Momentum

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When life goes well, let it be that way.

Change is such a buzzword. Change happens all the time. If you think about it in our experiences we tend to think change either as a) good b) bad.

Depending in the culture you are living in, you might have more or less bias towards action. Some cultures prefer a lot of action right away where are others are more of the ‘wait and see’ types.

There is no right or wrong.

When it comes to living a life where you feel good because of your actions, you’ll need to learn to recognize what is desirable and focus your limited actions to reinforcing that good. Often times no action is required: when things are well – let them be.

Too often we sabotage our own wellbeing.

Action is not always the best solution. Sometimes inaction is good solution too.

Do not confuse inaction with laziness, that’s a different breed. You’ll need to learn to recognize what kind of action creates waste and what kind of action creates value.

Either you need to focus on building more and more value, or find someone to who your waste is value. These both are rather good options.

You have limited time and focus. Use these limited time and focus to build something meaning, something positive and reinforce that positive momentum.

Once you’ve the positive momentum going, do not touch. Just seek to build on it. Build on every success you’ve, one brick at a time.

Sometimes distraction is the solution

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As I am proceeding on reading the Originals by Adam Grant I also happen to personally experienced the statement in the topic.

Today I finally decided to upgrade my computer, on a whim of course. It has been actually discovered that all of our decision making is emotional. If our emotions weren’t functioning properly we could hardly make any decisions at all.

So now I upgraded my old 7,5 years old desktop with a bit more recent one and I better make use of it, or otherwise I’ll regret.

This is a decision that I’ve been postponing for a long time. Last year as I finished my thesis I already promised myself a new computer as a prize. Yet only now I happen to purchase it.

The needs that aren’t basic needs aren’t really needs at all. I’ve been wanting focus more to the stuff that has mattered to me rather than the means. In a sense I’ve been really successful in this attempt and I can praise myself for this.

However, this morning as I woke up I started to wonder, since when it was that I felt such a reluctance to do the writing that I usually so happily do. Then I realized that I need to loosen up a bit and change my focus. So I also loosened up my standards just a bit which allowed me finally to find satisfactory computer and get it right away. This was really satisfactory.

Although I don’t have any acute needs for the faster computer, it’s still a tool and tool that I probably most proficient with, so now even after a purchase I feel satisfied and assured that I will find the use for it.

Decision making process was mostly emotional, backed up by month’s worth of rational comparing and delaying the decision. Now the time felt ripe and I am happy.

Now it also turns out that it is quite easy to return to the work of writing as well. Reluctance I experienced in the morning is gone and the experience of the day is always a nice spice for the writing.

As a conclusion sometimes it’s better to just see how the day plays out and then return to the work of art.

Present Day Problems are Created Yesterday, How to Avoid that Tomorrow?

flowerYesterday I was lucky enough to attend coaching by Jari Sarasvuo. It was all powerful experience as ever, as I linked a lots of the things that he talked about to my own life and observations of it.

One particular things that I highlihted today upon on writing down the notes to my computer was statement the present misery is result of the wasted future. Jari was talking about identity stress about how our perceived self and real self are in struggle.

I would like to observe a smaller portion of this phenomenon now. Here is the thing: essentially most of our problems occur because we did not take skillful action in the past. If we would’ve taken skillful action in the past, we would have more skills, more experience and less and less problems coming at us. Instead we would get more opportunities and yet we would challenge ourselves to learn more in order to keep the edge.

Present however is a tricky state, we often think we can in the future, however in present our minds take the easy way out in order to conserve energy. We often have less conscious capacity than we think, or our lives are consuming more conscious energy than we think. Either case the trouble is that we do not have the necessary energy to bring results on the table.

Time flows, we never be as young as we are today. It’s about to do something you already now. It’s time to prioritize and make those priorities unconditional.

Jari noted in yesterday’s coaching as well as on Monday’s podcast that the succesful people are internally ambivalents and exterially bivalents. So their inner worlds have all kinds of shades and colors, while the external action is either yes or no. You show up on time or not. You either drink or not.

I am quite fascinated by this idea. Now I’ve begun to make observations about my life. Most important choices are bivalent like, I take the stairs, we cook at home, I write journal & meditate.  Then there are a few habits that are more negotiable. For example tea drinking, which I quit on a whim to reduce the negative effects that tea has. Most of the time I don’t drink, or feel like drinking, however some morning when I am obliged to start writing I might exchange cup or two of tea for an article.

The key to get more bivalent is to have high priority, commitment and determination to the habit. Once you decide something, stick with it for as long as you can, until you start doing it without thinking about it.

Human mind has willpower or conscious capacity, so we need to get through one significant change at a time.

Let your new habit take a root of your identity. Don’t get discouraged by failure, we are not our failures after all. Think of failure as a stepping stone to the platform where your real identity waits you.

Tsemppiä!

Janne