I heard this cliche “Do what you love, and you’ll never work another day in your life.”
And then I began to think: Work is the ability to get the desired results.
Why not to work for love instead? If you work for love, you’ll find what results the world needs and are able to give it.
Life is about giving after all.
Work to love.
“You can’t burn out as a giver, as long as you see the impact you create.” – Adam Grant
Remember though that you cannot give what you do not have. You’ve to take care of yourself first. It’s your own well being that limits your giving. The more you take care of yourself, the more you are able to give.
Work on yourself also to give more.
The more you give, the more you’ll receive in the end.
However, do not give to receive. Do not attach to the fruits of your labor. Attachment causes suffering.
Practice to give without an attachment. That is unconditional love. You’ll learn to love the process of giving, giving is joy in itself. And if something comes back that is joy as well.
Then life will be a pleasant surprise.
Work for (unconditional) love.
We have the ability to look forward, just as much we have the ability to look back or be present in the moment. Contentment of life depends quite a bit how much attention we fix on any of the states.
A year ago, I was browsing through a book of strategy at my friend’s place and there was this rough division of attention 70/20/10. 70 % in the present, 20% in the future 10% in the past. These figures have stuck with me ever since then and I think it’s rather applicable.
We feel most alive when we are doing things, and this requires us to be present most of the time and taking action. What justifies more of the time spent on future, rather than in the past is simply that we cannot change the past, but we can create the future by taking action in the present. Therefore, it is necessary to remember a little bit more of the time what do we want to achieve and why.
Then once we have done our thing, we can sit back and reflect on what we did, how did it turn out and what did we learn from it.
Past is a place to learn and to be satisfied with the present, this line summarizes it very well: “Remember the days you prayed for the things you have now.”
Epicurus put even some more advice in to the similar thought: “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
If we keep trying, it’s almost inevitable that we will succeed eventually. Our present comes therefore the utopia that we once dreamed of.
We human beings are social animals. We simply cannot survive for long just by ourselves.
Yet the belonging and the other side of the belonging which is being alone is big part of our lives.
Stoics, the philosophy that concerns on how we can overcome our destructive emotions and focus on what we can control, has the concept of inner fortress. Inner fortress means preparing ourselves for what ever life will present us with.
Preparation in the present is all that we can do. It’s very closely intertwined with amor fati, the love of fate. To love what ever is right now and then work from there towards the desired goals.
What ever happens, that is the practice and preparation.
These are the thoughts I’ve lately noticed myself repeating to myself over and over again to make them instinctive. I’ve noticed that my personality is rather volatile. At parts in my life I’ve been fine being alone for extended periods of time, however then there are times I crave for company. Recently it has been so that I’ve been around so many people that I’ve forgotten how to be quiet by myself.
However, it is today that I realized it is exactly the amount happiness we have in our lives that we have no matter what the other people do. If we are happy by ourselves, in our inner citadel, that is the happiest we can be and nothing can take that away from us.
It’s the building of the inner citadel that we should put this time and then to enjoy it’s fruits. The more prepared your fortress is, the more you prepared you are for anything that the life will throw at you, the better you will be able to enjoy it, be it alone or with others.
The way you enjoy being by yourself is a good indicator thought, how well you are prepared.
Life is short, we better get ready.
Pursuit of happiness.
Wanting a good life.
How do we define these concepts and when do we know we have achieved them?
The more our own understanding grows, the less we are certain to know. Also another thing is the more understanding we get, the more we want to see others to succeed.
When you want others to succeed, you’ll start putting priorities in different order. While this is mostly positive, there are risks as well. It’s not good to neglect your own priorities. It’s a matter of balance between production and production capability.
I would like to see others doing well physically, social, emotionally and spiritually. However, I haven’t thought about it what it really means, what kind of actions and habits people who are wellbeing would do?
Some actions I can think of right away such as: they would read more books, and discuss about them. Or focus more on the overall nutritional value and cut more often on sugar. Taking more action and steps versus passive sitting and elevators.
These little choices I believe have tremendous impact in the long run for peoples’ well-being. Therefore I think it should be called well-doing. What kind of well-doing would you like to see?
Joy is not very permanent thing as is not happiness either. Actually closest thing to a permanent it’s when we accept our fate and learn to be happy with it.
From my past suffering I’ve learned not to escape the present suffering. Often I still do wrong decisions that actually cause more suffering. Best response towards the present suffering is to accept it and learn to love the fate. Amor fati.
So with this in mind, if I do not feel joy it’s sign for me to still work on myself. Solution is not to seek joy from other people, or substances. What I’ve found is that mostly takes some rest, quiet meditation and clarification of priorities.
Nature of suffering arises something that we did or didn’t do and then we start to feel helpless. However, once we regain the sense of control and are able to do something the joy starts to come back.
Start from the inner joy. Drink only to celebration so to speak. Strengthen that which is right with the world focus less on everything else.
Happiness is an attitude to respond to the joys and sorrows of life. We can choose how we respond and happiness therefore is a conscious decision.
Happiness is the habit and you can choose to create it. Do not complicate life: enjoy what you have now and you will have more of that which you focus to. If you focus to the good, you will have plenty more of the good.
We can program habits through action. So start choosing your attitude of happiness, do it enough many times and you will have the habit of happiness. Train your mind every day, not to ignore the bad, but to find the good and focus to the good. Reinforce what is good and work through your strengths to create more good and you shall have plenty.
Work is the magic that can transform your present, into something even more through the process of accumulation. By doing small things every day you will create happiness more and more. Remember to keep on working at it every day. The thing with the habits is that, we need to keep using it, or we lose it. All the good habits stick only if you practice them consistently.
Habits become easier day by day, however keep on challenging yourself with tiny things to make even stronger habits and through that greater results. When you are skillful at happiness, it’s much easier to uplift others as well and through others you will have much better times.
Loving the present moment makes life magical.
No more clinging to the past.
No more desiring for the future.
Focusing and enjoying the present releases energy to be happy. When we are happy we tend to be more cheerful and creative. This translates to productivity and social likability as well.
We can work from the present to increase the odds of good things happening in the future. However whatever happens, our life experience is limited to the present.
Loving what you have is easier said than done. Personally I find it easy to accept present and love it after 16th Karmapa meditation.
Happiness sounds good and it’s part of the story of the many. The stories what happiness is and how it can be achieved vary a lot.
- “Perhaps happiness is synchronising one’s personal delusions of meaning with the prevailing collective delusions.” Yuval Noah Harari, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind
At times I think happiness is a collective delusion about how things are, so Harari has put it very well as words.
- “Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually.” Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
Ability to delay gratification and making that habit can lead to a similar that like that of squirrel who stashes nuts, forgets about them and then rejoices of its findings. Meaningful things take time and that’s why they require delayed gratification.
- “True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future.” Neil Pasricha, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything
Stopping the wanting never stops until we stop it. I think finding happiness and contentment in the present helps one to delay gratification.
Happiness is experience and experiences happen in the present moment. All of the thoughts above affect to the present moment, so therefore these and many other paths are open to those who want to experience more happiness. Good to remember that in the core of the experience is being present.
Have a great evening!
Lack of questions signals that there is no interest. When I understood this a few days ago I felt shocked as indeed it’s in many cases easier not to ask anything than it is to ask. Sometimes I’ve also passed asking questions even though I’ve been curious about something, however I still haven’t bothered to open up my mouth.
Often the questions are more valuable than the actual answers.
Questions show that we are thinking.
Questions show that we care.
Questions are essential for learning.
Questions connect people.
When you do not ask questions you are not moving towards people, you are drifting apart.
Asking questions means building understanding, building happiness, building love and all that good stuff.
Life is short, therefore we should live it joyfully and let the others be touched by the joy of living as well, so that we all may live happily. Joy is contagious.
I had the privilege to meet an enthusiast midwife, who told all kinds of stories from her profession. I admire and respect that profession, because they are at welcoming newborns into this world and working to make it as safe as possible. Often in such moments, one might whisper loving words into the ears of newborns and thus welcoming them to this world.
Each day should be celebrated with such love, hope and joy and soon as we can read this for example we can understand that although we shouldn’t focus blame or complain about other people not doing this, instead we should focus on instilling the joy of living into our lives and communicate that through our actions to others.
Joie de vivre, joy of living can be transferred into others through simple affirming smile or greeting for example. We can do this anywhere we go: work, bus or school for example. If you then add something positive and pleasant to the mix you will totally make someone’s day better.
Some of us cannot stand this positive talk, because they have a limiter in themselves that limits the amount of good feeling they allow themselves to feel. Gay Hendricks calls this the upper limit problem. We all have to work on our own upper limit problems, however by staying positive and happy you will certainly create more good to the environment than do bad.
You can become the example for joy of living in where ever you are at the moment. Enjoy the life you have now and let you be a positive voice and influence to the lives of many. Strengthen what is good and right in the world, if we do this, the life is unending chain of positive wishes even after it is all over 🙂