Do Not Split Yourself Too Much

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There is power in focus and focus requires few things, less things.

We should exercise the power of saying yes in clear state of mind. Then keep the few things that we have decided to work on until they are finished clear in our minds or at least very close to us in paper so we may revisit them at any time.

We should work diligently to accomplish the few things. When we have accomplished the most important tasks of the day we can start saying yes to other less urgent things.

Prioritizing should be about focused effort towards the most important tasks, not constant interruptions to weigh if something else more urgent came up. There are emergencies which are exceptions to this rule.

Through your day you can be doing a few things, but only a one thing at a time. In professional context splitting your attention too much through different tasks is heavy on y our cognition. A little bit of variance is even good for the brain and gives the sense of variety which is good. Know where is the limit between what is good for you and what is not.

Learn the Inner Joy

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Joy is not very permanent thing as is not happiness either. Actually closest thing to a permanent it’s when we accept our fate and learn to be happy with it.

From my past suffering I’ve learned not to escape the present suffering. Often I still do wrong decisions that actually cause more suffering. Best response towards the present suffering is to accept it and learn to love the fate. Amor fati.

So with this in mind, if I do not feel joy it’s sign for me to still work on myself. Solution is not to seek joy from other people, or substances. What I’ve found is that mostly takes some rest, quiet meditation and clarification of priorities.

Nature of suffering arises something that we did or didn’t do and then we start to feel helpless. However, once we regain the sense of control and are able to do something the joy starts to come back.

Start from the inner joy. Drink only to celebration so to speak. Strengthen that which is right with the world focus less on everything else.

Making Happiness a Habit

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Happiness is an attitude to respond to the joys and sorrows of life. We can choose how we respond and happiness therefore is a conscious decision.

Happiness is the habit and you can choose to create it. Do not complicate life: enjoy what you have now and you will have more of that which you focus to. If you focus to the good, you will have plenty more of the good.

We can program habits through action. So start choosing your attitude of happiness, do it enough many times and you will have the habit of happiness. Train your mind every day, not to ignore the bad, but to find the good and focus to the good. Reinforce what is good and work through your strengths to create more good and you shall have plenty.

Work is the magic that can transform your present, into something even more through the process of accumulation. By doing small things every day you will create happiness more and more. Remember to keep on working at it every day. The thing with the habits is that, we need to keep using it, or we lose it. All the good habits stick only if you practice them consistently.

Habits become easier day by day, however keep on challenging yourself with tiny things to make even stronger habits and through that greater results. When you are skillful at happiness, it’s much easier to uplift others as well and through others you will have much better times.

Focus on Big Priorities and Withstand Imperfection on Small Priorities

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In life there are almost no things that are absolutely good or bad it always depends on the context. Good can turn into bad where bad can turn into good.

The more clearly we know what we want, the more we can start increasing such opportunities. As the number of opportunities increases, we have to start prioritizing our present moments. Then we may have great opportunities going on and at the same time have a cost of imperfection: we cannot do everything perfectly.

Therefore the ability to withstand the imperfection within the plentiful opportunities is a key to keep increasing opportunities. Without a risk, there is no reward. We just have to be really mindful for what we want and why.

We can have more and better opportunities the more we are willing to withstand the imperfection and uncertainty in life. All the great rewards eventually come from maintaining the most important and critical priorities.

Often focusing to the critical and most important priorities means that you are going to miss on small priorities, this is the cause of the imperfection. Yet as you know, your focus is in creating more plentiful opportunities. Your gains will be much higher than your losses, so what will happen over time? You will grow rich in areas of life you are practicing.

 

 

What We Focus on, Grows Stronger

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Focus is magic, for that which we focus on grows stronger.

I.e. if you focus on value, you are more likely to create some value as well.

If you focus to the irrelevant, then you are likely to be a distracting force around others.

Conscious focus is powerful human ability. Ability to consciously learn to focus habitually and effortlessly makes us exponentially more powerful.

In his book Focus Daniel Goleman writes “our own inner voices are our biggest distraction.”

If our ability to focus determines what we can achieve in life, we seem to be our own worst enemies. It’s a bit similar thought to Ryan Holiday’s “ego is the enemy, every step of the way.”

Amplification of that which we focus is strange, wonderful and powerful. It’s our choice how that power will serve us and it’s our responsibility.

Personally I’ve found both great suffering and great joy from focus. It’s our habit of relating with our environment that directs our focus. Often I’ve found that I am in environment that does not support optimal focus.

In human constructed environments there are often other interests than my true long term wellbeing. Shopping malls or supermarkets for instance have a hidden agenda and great effort have been put there together for specific products to have my attention.

In home environment I’ll try to arrange it so that the powerful thoughts have a lot of my attention, thus I’ve arranged life board in a visible part of my room so that I’ll get back to it often. I believe it’s from these thoughts that better life will sprout from. Making these thoughts into actions, actions into habits and habits as my character. Eventually this will become my life.

It’s our decision to choose where we focus: is it that what is right with the world, or what is wrong with the world?

Where Do You Start At?

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To get somewhere, we must get started.

Where do you start, if you do not have the feeling to started? Would you begin by doing and finding the feeling, or would you try to set the feeling first and then start doing?

If what you want to do is anything of importance, it deserves to be started and done as soon as possible. Since life is limited what you are doing should be important. If you focus only to what is important, you will have time for everything.

Now since you can start to focus on what is important, you should begin somewhere and think less of where to begin, just start!

Be Like a Storm!

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You are a force, like a storm.

For you get everything done in time,

Do not focus on what others whine,

Instead let the successes chime,

And all the good find!

 

To change the world, we just need to change one dark corner of it. And often that tiny dark corner is ourselves. It’s enough to change ourselves for the better. We do not need to worry or think about anyone else but ourselves.

How simple is that?

It’s simple, yet not easy. Who said it would be easy. It’s simple and doable, not easy.

What is in your control, what do you get to decide? Start with your attitude, how do you choose to react to what happens in your life? How do you respond to challenges?

Stop wishing for easy life, start getting smarter, stronger faster. It’s all in your power.

Start smiling for what you have!

Start focusing on what is right in the world, instead of finding the faults.

Start celebrating the small successes in bigger ways!

You have all the time what you need to do what is important, just cut the unimportant out of your life.

Be like a storm, make yourself known, make a name for yourself!

 

Thanks for reading, have a great day!

Janne

Contemplation: Focusing Full Energy

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Decision making is energy intensive and energy creating process.

I’ve a few times a year these phases where the existential crisis kicks in. I’ll keep performing habits without much emotion. Then in some actions there is still spark left, while my rest of the mind wanders in deeper questions.

It’s because of this deeply inquisitive mindset that my mind apparently starts to question a little bit of everything. Including my most beloved and hard earned habits as writing itself. In fact today I made the decision not to write.

Until then I found some energy on the decision what to do tomorrow. And when I found the energy to decide on what to do tomorrow, what inspiring thing I will do tomorrow, now I got my inspiration to write about that decision making energy.

Making decisions is really energy intensive, however by doing so it allows us to focus our energy that which truly matters. And we should spend our days doing what truly matters, because other stuff doesn’t matter at all.

So far the very best answer to the meaning of life is to live life so that whole life is an answer to the question. And to do that we should be making smarter decisions on what to do and do those decisions with higher intensity.

Finding the Positive in the Negative

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A reflective post about acquiring new, more constructive and positive thoughts.

Often by default we do not have the optimum thoughts, no matter how smart we think we are. We are our own programmers, so we write our own destiny, even though much of what we have running inside us is also adopted from the environment and upbringing for example.

However what would happen, if something went wrong or will go wrong along the way? Unless we learn the skill of unlearning bad thinking patterns, and replacing them with more skillful ones we are likely going to end up suffering a lot.

One such thinking pattern that I’ve had to confront in my life recently has to do with abundance.

About a year ago I read this book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Yet now as I’ve listened thoughts about the book through podcasts, I’ve understood that I remember quite a little from the book. I revisited my notes and I got excited: I have to read this book again. So what I did yesterday on Sunday was to purchase Audible edition, put the speed on 1.7X and listened almost the whole book in one sitting and made meticulous notes as the author himself was reading the book for me. This was absolutely brilliant way to spend my time, because on this time I picked up very much different things than on the first reading.

On the first time I read the book about a year ago there was literally too much to handle at a one time. We can only process one thought at a time anyway, so it wouldn’t make much sense to do more. On this time thought I was able to focus more on the content and how to apply it than during the first time.

Especially interesting concept are the upper limit problems, the kind of subconscious thinking through which we (our own ego) starts sabotaging us. This is also outlined in the book: Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday and widely in psychology as well. Idea is that, we are rather in familiar hell than unknown heaven. Our ego is afraid, and that’s why we would sabotage ourselves.

This is also the reason why Winston Churchill said that courage is the primary virtue, because nothing would happen if we would stay crippled by fear. In the book Hendricks quotes Fitz Perls that fear is excitement without breath and suggests that cure for fear is simply start breathing.

I picked up the success / abundance / love mantra that was introduced in the book, however what I found particularly useful was the thought that whenever something perhaps undesired happens, is to view it as just so that something wonderful must be happening. This is based on the idea that we are sabotaging ourselves, because we have reached an upper limit where we cannot ourselves to enjoy the good fortune. Therefore right place to shift the attention is to wonder what kind of wonderful things are going to happen next.

Decision You Make, Make You!

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We have limited attention. Our ability to prioritize this attention is one of the few things we can truly control and is one of our primary sources to gain more power from the world.

Great decision making means you can have more of what you really need. You will have all the time in the world for the most important things. Decision making is powerful: not only does it mean commitment to do something, but also decision not to do something.

Decision you make, sharpen your focus, you will get more productive. Through deciding what to do, you decide what you become!

Decide wisely.