Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche


What do you think when the word Warrior appears to you?

For Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, it is men such as Mohandas Gandhi and Martin Luther King jr.

Not quite what you had in mind? Perhaps there is still something to learn about the mature male psyche.

Warrior is easily linked with aggressiveness and destructiveness. While those are important qualities of a warrior, real warrior is not purely set out to destroy. Real warrior is there to set out to destroy what doesn’t work and construct what is right in the world. Real warrior is both creator and a destroyer, a man with a mission to build and expand.

Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche is a book about the Warrior archetype of a masculine psyche, how to access it and why.

I cannot recommend this book as standalone, you should first read the outlining book: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature. However, once you have read that I highly recommend this.

Warrior within resonates with Stoic philosophy and thinking: “The buck stops with you. Prepare yourself. Step forward. Accept your Warrior responsibilities. Fit your talents and responsibilities to the arena or theater that seems to need you the most.”

Warrior energy should be put to work to take responsibility, destroy that which doesn’t work and then to expand and construct that which is needed.

Unleash the God Within


The dilemma with ‘us’ is our egoes that get into the way.

With ego involvement we can be excellent, without ego involvement we can be godlike geniuses.

Judgement does not further our cause.

Our we have tiny fraction of universes uniqueness inside us, and to live that true would be the purpose of life. Now, I would like to give advice i.e. to actualize that requires skillful action without an attachment to the results or trappings of identity.

Or perhaps that you could practice this or that meditation.

However, life is not that simple: each of our life is a puzzle, a game of a different kind to unlock our godlike nature. Therefore what works for one, may not work for another.

Buddha was careful with the words. Words or thoughts can guide or misguide us.

I realized, that my mission on is not to tell what I know, or communicate what I have learned. My mission is to wake up people to think for themselves. With this autonomy people can start solving their own puzzles of life and unleash the god within for themselves.

Finding the Positive in the Negative


A reflective post about acquiring new, more constructive and positive thoughts.

Often by default we do not have the optimum thoughts, no matter how smart we think we are. We are our own programmers, so we write our own destiny, even though much of what we have running inside us is also adopted from the environment and upbringing for example.

However what would happen, if something went wrong or will go wrong along the way? Unless we learn the skill of unlearning bad thinking patterns, and replacing them with more skillful ones we are likely going to end up suffering a lot.

One such thinking pattern that I’ve had to confront in my life recently has to do with abundance.

About a year ago I read this book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Yet now as I’ve listened thoughts about the book through podcasts, I’ve understood that I remember quite a little from the book. I revisited my notes and I got excited: I have to read this book again. So what I did yesterday on Sunday was to purchase Audible edition, put the speed on 1.7X and listened almost the whole book in one sitting and made meticulous notes as the author himself was reading the book for me. This was absolutely brilliant way to spend my time, because on this time I picked up very much different things than on the first reading.

On the first time I read the book about a year ago there was literally too much to handle at a one time. We can only process one thought at a time anyway, so it wouldn’t make much sense to do more. On this time thought I was able to focus more on the content and how to apply it than during the first time.

Especially interesting concept are the upper limit problems, the kind of subconscious thinking through which we (our own ego) starts sabotaging us. This is also outlined in the book: Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday and widely in psychology as well. Idea is that, we are rather in familiar hell than unknown heaven. Our ego is afraid, and that’s why we would sabotage ourselves.

This is also the reason why Winston Churchill said that courage is the primary virtue, because nothing would happen if we would stay crippled by fear. In the book Hendricks quotes Fitz Perls that fear is excitement without breath and suggests that cure for fear is simply start breathing.

I picked up the success / abundance / love mantra that was introduced in the book, however what I found particularly useful was the thought that whenever something perhaps undesired happens, is to view it as just so that something wonderful must be happening. This is based on the idea that we are sabotaging ourselves, because we have reached an upper limit where we cannot ourselves to enjoy the good fortune. Therefore right place to shift the attention is to wonder what kind of wonderful things are going to happen next.

Random Thoughts: Humility and Potential Paradox  



I need to remind myself to stay humble. The work I do is yet fairly insignificant what it could be.

Do you see your potential? Even as a collective human species we barely manage to make a dent in the universe. Space is vast and unknown.

This morning, I was listening a podcast where the theme was The Big Leap Book by Gay Hendricks. There are four levels of achievement: the zone of incompetence, zone of competence, zone of excellence and zone of genius. Where would you put yourself?

I mean that is pretty eye opening, because we often settle for competence or even excellence, where the genius would be where we would thrive. Surrendering to the genius is a wonderful idea, yet our egos are terrified by that very same idea.

Humility and the potential, what a paradox.

Humility is the Way and Acceptance Our Ally



Where Ryan Holiday has the awesome book “Ego is the Enemy”, which is true in a sense. I dislike the words that prime towards anything that has to do with violence.

So therefore I was thinking flip the thinking from what is undesirable to what works and that conclusion is that humility is the ally. Even ally does have some undesirable associations, however in my mind it is already a leap ahead.

What does humility in particularly allow us to do? First and foremost, to learn. Without humility, learning in deep or broad, or actually in any meaningful level is impossibility. We need humility to really dig into both deep and broad levels of learning.

We need to acknowledge, how limited our knowledge is and how limited we are in learning. This is a practice we must do each day of our lives, until the end. Even if we knew everything we have ever known, yet there is so much to learn. Acknowledging this requires the humility.

Humility is the way we need to go; to make that journey more bearable is to add a dash of self-love and acceptance for our fragile ego. When we walk the path of humility, our ego is naturally threatened. To mend this, we need acceptance and care for ourselves. With this combination we are able to be more humble and learn faster, become the best versions of ourselves so to speak.

Learning our place in this world via feedback  


no-988481_1920One particularly important thing on our path of life comes to how do we relate to others. In order to get a ahead professionally, or personally we need others. When dealing with people, we may feel somehow offended. These are all kinds of ego protection mechanisms on both sides working hard to keep our identities and egos intact.

Only way to start acting differently in this socially constructed world is of course information and especially feedback. There is a golden ratio of feedback for us, positive feedback should outnumber constructive 2:1. This means we are not gonna change our mishaps anytime soon, so we might as well accept those as well as others.

What we can control and develop is our own ability to deal with feedback. How much and how often we can receive feedback. And of course one particularly good habit is actually to ask for feedback.

Feedback or improvement are not THE answers, they are just answers. As I wrote yesterday, sometimes even the improvement is not the answer, we’ve to consider carefully when it is. Overall I think that the listening and receiving feedback are wonderful qualities in a person. Ability to ask for feedback and process that, gives us wonderful something we wouldn’t otherwise know about ourselves. Then we can calmly consider all of it and also form a more accurate view of ourselves in this world.