Living Your Own Dharma


 Where Wikipedia starts with “There is no single-word translation for dharma in Western languages”, I’ll just use one definition in this blog for dharma: nature of reality.

To elaborate, nature of reality is the way things are so called cosmic order. Cosmic order is not a fixed concept, but as dynamic and ongoing process as life itself. Nature of reality is change and cosmic order meets the needs of the present moment all the time.

You as a living being therefore are part of this ongoing process of reorganization through your presence as a living being. Each moment is opportunity to live and fulfill your dharma by being completely mindful. You can think that there are different kinds of option in each moment: the option of passivity, the option of too much action or unskillful action, or the option of right and skillful action. Although not limited to these categories, mostly our thoughts, words and actions fall into these categories when we think of the opportunity cost to fulfill our dharma.

We are creatures of habit, because of our physical survival needs. We want to conserve energy in this chaotic and complex world in order to survive.

When we are born into this world, most of our habits we adopt come from reactions and the example of our surroundings. Even if we would be surrounded by enlightened beings even then it would be better for us to look how our habits serve our own dharma.

Not even the best habits and example of enlightened people will serve you, because you are you and your dharma is your responsibility.

Succeeding in our own dharma is the greatest challenge, purpose and contribution. Your gift for the universe.

It’s not your bosses dharma. Not your parents, or your children. Not your spouses. Not your friends dharma. Your dharma.

Be present now and you will know what it is you need to do if anything.

Joy and energy!


Values: connection & disconnection


For what you value, you must sacrifice.

I’ve made changes in my values in the past six months. Due to this decision I begin to experience the price, and the sacrifice in my social life: the feeling of value with some people have begun to feel less meaningful and less valuable.

I’ve found different meaning and it’s no longer in the same direction.

Decision have to be made.

Values are meaningful. Shared values help us to work toward common goal.

If perception to the previously shared values changes, then the relationship changes as well.

What I thought was very positive change for me, has caused quite a bit of suffering. Is a positive change then a desirable? Is this temporary pain worth it?

I’ve comforted myself with the thought that nothing great is born without pain.

Besides I’ve chosen to update my values because I want something better. Yet in so called short term this feels surprisingly painful.

Long term or short term perspective?

Even from pain one seeks relief. At least hope. Is there hope?

Higher levels values, create higher level order.

Lower level values create chaos.

So by embracing and determining my values again, I’ve set out to feel the suffering now in order to create something greater. Example of great people have shown that the higher level values might not even be appreciated by the present state society. Only the future generation may grow to that level of maturity to appreciate.

About such greatness I do not know nothing. All I know, that I hope I must find and to create order I must continue.

Thank you for reading!

For greater context I can recommend Jordan B. Petersons 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote Against Chaos –book. It’s a book that I’ve read three times now in the past five months. I’ve found several ideas from that book to put in the practice and I believe I continue to discover so.

Now lately I feel like I want to connect with as many people as possible, globally so therefore I’ve chosen to continue my blog in English.


We are the Creators of Our Own Emotional Rollercoasters


Mammals have this amazing quick and effortless ability to feel. Feeling emotions makes communication incredibly quick.

In groups of animals there is the emotional contagion effect. Same is in humans, the strongest emotion in a group will take hold after about two minutes and set the tone for the rest of the group.

Because emotions are quick and effortless, they become easily chaotic. There starts to swing many emotions around and soon emotions are difficult to control, especially if you do not have any training.

With chaotic emotions, it is very easy for people to get hurt either really or through misunderstanding. Most often the time we hurt each other simply because we do not understand each other well enough. We may jump to conclusion or misinterpret even good intentions without full understanding.

At times we are right and the fault is not in us at all.

We have right to feel what we feel. That being said, although we feel, does not mean we are what we feel. We are not our feelings, because we can observe them.

Understanding the passing by nature of the emotions helps us to manage the chaotic nature. First things is to recognize and give a name for the feelings. Through recognizing we take notice, and because we can take notice – we can let go as well.

Recognize and let go. Deep breath.

Our feelings do not dictate our emotional life. Feelings come and go, emotional life is what stays. We are working for longer term emotional life. If feelings are the ups or downs of the rollercoaster, the emotional life is the whole ride.

We are the makers of our own rollercoasters. We can determine beforehand what kind of ups, downs and loops we add there. We can then accept that this is our rollercoaster and enjoy the whole ride even though some turn might feel bad, the overall is our awesome creation.

Influencing and controlling the uncertainty*


I’ve been learning to live with uncertainty past year: I feel like I’ve gotten a way better at that. In fact I’ve gotten so good, that I do not stress out of the small things that would’ve made me lose good night’s sleep a year ago. It’s amazing how much our mental capacity to manage uncertainty can change!

Mostly I would attribute the change to just better understanding of reality, how things actually are instead of how I think things are. Before I would’ve been stressed, because I did not know better what is the nature of reality and especially people in that reality. Now I am more learned about the nature of people and on the other hand I worry way less about the future that is not yet present.

Calm in the present moment is the best we can do.

Even in the long term things, like investing I’ve found the ability to withstand uncertainty really helpful. This helps making investment decisions systematically and to stick with the consciously devised plan, instead of going here and there.

Action plans are helpful, because no matter in what kind of turmoil we are in, we have something thought out, some plan or strategy to follow. Some values to guide us.

Preparation certainly helps to deal with uncertainty, but in the end what matters is the ability to stay calm and look at the reality.

Nature of life is forward. We have to accept the reality to move forward. The more we can accept our reality, the more uncertainty we can take.

We have a lot of control over certain things in our life, focus most of your energy to that which you can decide and influence and you are in a good shape: you have sense of control over the chaotic. Our minds are perfect example of something we can influence and even control at times.



* This is a topic that I will definitely explore further, until next time.