When life goes well, let it be that way.
Change is such a buzzword. Change happens all the time. If you think about it in our experiences we tend to think change either as a) good b) bad.
Depending in the culture you are living in, you might have more or less bias towards action. Some cultures prefer a lot of action right away where are others are more of the ‘wait and see’ types.
There is no right or wrong.
When it comes to living a life where you feel good because of your actions, you’ll need to learn to recognize what is desirable and focus your limited actions to reinforcing that good. Often times no action is required: when things are well – let them be.
Too often we sabotage our own wellbeing.
Action is not always the best solution. Sometimes inaction is good solution too.
Do not confuse inaction with laziness, that’s a different breed. You’ll need to learn to recognize what kind of action creates waste and what kind of action creates value.
Either you need to focus on building more and more value, or find someone to who your waste is value. These both are rather good options.
You have limited time and focus. Use these limited time and focus to build something meaning, something positive and reinforce that positive momentum.
Once you’ve the positive momentum going, do not touch. Just seek to build on it. Build on every success you’ve, one brick at a time.
We have the ability to look forward, just as much we have the ability to look back or be present in the moment. Contentment of life depends quite a bit how much attention we fix on any of the states.
A year ago, I was browsing through a book of strategy at my friend’s place and there was this rough division of attention 70/20/10. 70 % in the present, 20% in the future 10% in the past. These figures have stuck with me ever since then and I think it’s rather applicable.
We feel most alive when we are doing things, and this requires us to be present most of the time and taking action. What justifies more of the time spent on future, rather than in the past is simply that we cannot change the past, but we can create the future by taking action in the present. Therefore, it is necessary to remember a little bit more of the time what do we want to achieve and why.
Then once we have done our thing, we can sit back and reflect on what we did, how did it turn out and what did we learn from it.
Past is a place to learn and to be satisfied with the present, this line summarizes it very well: “Remember the days you prayed for the things you have now.”
Epicurus put even some more advice in to the similar thought: “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
If we keep trying, it’s almost inevitable that we will succeed eventually. Our present comes therefore the utopia that we once dreamed of.
Only Doing furthers the progress of the task. This is easy to say, hard to understand in the way that it translates as immediate action.
One of the best leadership questions after a decision to do something, is to ask when you are going to do it? And the follow up is, why not now?
Important things should be started immediately. Next best thing is to set clear slot to calendar and do it then.
In sales there is saying “time kills deals.” In leadership it could be said that procrastination kills inspiration.
What ever is the cause for the delay: procrastination, hesitation, fear – all of those reasons we can figure out if they are defences or not, and then to think if this is really a excuse or could there be a way to do it now?
Doing things now, requires preparation and courage. Preparation for the most important things in life should be one of our daily practices. We cannot always do the things we want to do right now, however when can take the present moment as a practice and preparation for the moments that come. And when they come, we should seize the moments without hesitation.
Do it right away!
See the tasks that feel difficult right now as a practice for the future success. Those who are willing to put themselves through difficult situations learn the quickest. You’ll get a lot better through challenges.
There is one exception to the rule: things that are way too difficult We do not need to try to do the impossible, but the thing that just is just out of reach, not out of sight.
Happiness is an attitude to respond to the joys and sorrows of life. We can choose how we respond and happiness therefore is a conscious decision.
Happiness is the habit and you can choose to create it. Do not complicate life: enjoy what you have now and you will have more of that which you focus to. If you focus to the good, you will have plenty more of the good.
We can program habits through action. So start choosing your attitude of happiness, do it enough many times and you will have the habit of happiness. Train your mind every day, not to ignore the bad, but to find the good and focus to the good. Reinforce what is good and work through your strengths to create more good and you shall have plenty.
Work is the magic that can transform your present, into something even more through the process of accumulation. By doing small things every day you will create happiness more and more. Remember to keep on working at it every day. The thing with the habits is that, we need to keep using it, or we lose it. All the good habits stick only if you practice them consistently.
Habits become easier day by day, however keep on challenging yourself with tiny things to make even stronger habits and through that greater results. When you are skillful at happiness, it’s much easier to uplift others as well and through others you will have much better times.
There are tremendous forces at work with life. They crush and crumble our plans easily. That’s why plans are useless. Planning is useful thought, because it allows us to mentally prepare for things to come and then adjust accordingly.
Visualization has the same effects on our brain as actual exercise. Same I believe to be true with planning. When we plan, we are living potential lives already. That prepares us for the actual reality to come.
With all this chaos and change in life, it might be easy to fall into the trap of victimhood: I do not have control.
While it’s true that the big picture of life gets set, we cannot affect the circumstances or the other people that are in our lives, we have surprisingly a lot of control within our own limited life.
Each day we make hundreds of decisions about our life. What if you started to look at your life the way you want to live it and make more decisions according to that ideal?
Decisions themselves are potent if you follow them up with sacrifice (decision to do means also decision not to do something else until the thing is done) and then action.
We can become that which we learn to be under pressure. By observing our thoughts, we can change our response, we can change our action and we can change our habits. We can change ourselves to take smarter action under pressure.
We can become smarter by taking smarter actions.
Top performers perform better under pressure, because they have more time to choose a better response. So can anyone become better at chosen action is the responses are better and you have more time to respond.
Pressure reveals how prepared we are, and how do we react to the pressure: do we have time to evaluate the best choices or do we mindlessly react like animals do?
More than ourselves, the way we react reflects the culture around us. For those who are in the culture, it is difficult to see. From outside its easier to observe that under pressure our behavior is often based or even copied from those who are close to us.
Pressure therefore not only reveals ourselves, it reveals the culture we are surrounded by.
Of course we do influence and get influenced by culture at the same time. What is in our own control is the respond to each situation and that’s it. Do you breathe for four seconds before reply or do you respond straight away? Do you have multiple choices or do you go with the first one that pop into your heads.
Decision making is energy intensive and energy creating process.
I’ve a few times a year these phases where the existential crisis kicks in. I’ll keep performing habits without much emotion. Then in some actions there is still spark left, while my rest of the mind wanders in deeper questions.
It’s because of this deeply inquisitive mindset that my mind apparently starts to question a little bit of everything. Including my most beloved and hard earned habits as writing itself. In fact today I made the decision not to write.
Until then I found some energy on the decision what to do tomorrow. And when I found the energy to decide on what to do tomorrow, what inspiring thing I will do tomorrow, now I got my inspiration to write about that decision making energy.
Making decisions is really energy intensive, however by doing so it allows us to focus our energy that which truly matters. And we should spend our days doing what truly matters, because other stuff doesn’t matter at all.
So far the very best answer to the meaning of life is to live life so that whole life is an answer to the question. And to do that we should be making smarter decisions on what to do and do those decisions with higher intensity.
The more of these two we have in our lives, the better our life starts to get. Especially if the ownership is paired with action to improve the thing. If the thing cannot be improved, then there is nothing much to worry about.
Today I made interesting association with the ownership. Taking ownership of the time: not complaining about the time, accepting and prioritizing based on that. It feels powerful. The idea once again comes from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, where he explains the idea of Einstein time. Belief that we are the creators of our time and if we focus to that we will have more time in our hands.
As Seneca put it, we never have time for everything, yet we have time for the important things. This seems to be the golden rule in thinking about the time: what is important and what is not.
Ownership of the thoughts and the words that we let out transforms everything. It’s not irrelevant what we say or how we say it: because that does not only reinforce our own thinking but affects others as well.
Full ownership means having all the control we can have and it is the key in mastering the one time where we can affect things: present.
The dilemma with ‘us’ is our egoes that get into the way.
With ego involvement we can be excellent, without ego involvement we can be godlike geniuses.
Judgement does not further our cause.
Our we have tiny fraction of universes uniqueness inside us, and to live that true would be the purpose of life. Now, I would like to give advice i.e. to actualize that requires skillful action without an attachment to the results or trappings of identity.
Or perhaps that you could practice this or that meditation.
However, life is not that simple: each of our life is a puzzle, a game of a different kind to unlock our godlike nature. Therefore what works for one, may not work for another.
Buddha was careful with the words. Words or thoughts can guide or misguide us.
I realized, that my mission on is not to tell what I know, or communicate what I have learned. My mission is to wake up people to think for themselves. With this autonomy people can start solving their own puzzles of life and unleash the god within for themselves.
Existential crisis takes over every now and then. Despite that the crisis word has negative connotations, it doesn’t have to be. Existential crisis refers merely to the questioning state of being, which at times may be exactly what is needed.
I was just going through my journals and it’s not uncommon to have such crisis during the spring for me. Mostly this is great time for reflection and then taking action based on that reflection.
Victor Frankl suggests the point is not to try to answer the question about meaning of life with words, but with actions: our life is our response.
Another thing about crisis personal or collective is that we should use it to make lasting decisions and changes: to leverage that.