Action and the result

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“Act Until Echo” – M.J. DeMarco, Unscripted

Action until it yields result. A powerful thought which upon feeling I felt many pieces click together. A sort of missing piece in my own puzzle to make sense of the world.

A kin to the thought great thinker Hannibal “I will either find a way, or make one.”

I like simplicity in this M.J. DeMarco’s version, there is specified action (act), then there is time constraint (until) and then there is also defined the wanted outcome (echo).

Echo refers to the feedback. Action creates all kinds of feedback, you can then go further and define what kind of echo it is you want to see in your life.

In life often there is more than single path to the desired outcome, as Hannibal suggests.

What one deems worthy of action is not so for another one, we are all in path to learning and understanding the priorities of life. On this path action is our friend, because action can be then transformed into harmonious action.

This is the insight shared in Bhagavad Gita. Passivity must be transformed to action. Action into harmonious being.

When you determine your desired outcome, take action until you get feedback. Based on that feedback you can decide to keep doing what you are doing, adjust or find another way.

Living Philsophy, Overcoming the Resistance

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With philosophy there comes responsibility to live it.

Wisdom is knowledge in action.

Sometimes the distance in between knowledge and action is long, because we have internal resistance to overcome Seth Godin talks about this resistance in his book Linchpin. I revisited my notes and highlights of the book today as I was overcome with huge resistance to finish my company’s website.

Seth Godin writes that the purpose of beginning is to finish. It’s our job to deliver and it is often our fear of inadequacy that keeps us from delivering.

First version of the website is ready www.amorfati.fi/en

Most meaning we can get is through serving others, and to serve others we must begin and finish.

In writing these is this thing called “the first ugly draft.”

In life we are often afraid to be defined by this first ugly draft. Then the one draft becomes hundred, or a thousand and we have not published anything.

When I follow professional work I am often surprised at how high levels people are holding back.

At the same time I’ve great feeling of inadequacy with my own work, own writing, pretty much anything I d so I can understand: it’s easy to tell others what to do.

Mostly our life is a struggle against ourselves, our beliefs about ourselves what we can or cannot do.

I’ve just started on the path of entrepreneur. I’ve a long and rocky way ahead of me. I know this, because big part of me still would like to take the safe and comfortable path of employment, not failing, not starting and trying to do something different.

Yet I choose to try. I want to grow and keep growing.  I also don’t want to buy into the mass hypnosis of not good enough and to break out from that I need to do anything differently, even if it fails.

Must is a powerful reason for action. I believe, I do what I must when I must.

Until then I’ll try to do something different, because there is also part of me that thinks that asks maybe I am good enough and at least some of my work is as well.

Owning Myself (What is Your Bad Hand? / David Goggins Challenge #1)

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Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins

I started reading Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins today. My friend has been talking about the book for at least six months. I’ve seen some David Goggins videos in the past and I definitely have thought that it has been a plus.

There is abundance of great quality content out there and I am definitely a person who does not need more quality content. I need more action. One good example of this is the way I wanted to read LESS in 2019 and do more.

On 2019 and 2020 I’ve been doing quite a lot, but many of them are wrong things. Job for example. And the reason I quit my job as well. After a work week and party on Friday I groped an employee after she had fallen asleep. She woke up though and left the apartment. I was overcome with shame and guilt, only thing I could do is to sleep. After I woke up I realize this is real. I texted her with a message where I acknowledged what I had done and expressed deep remorse. I did not get response. In the end she had brought the topic to my superiors which then asked to hear my part of it. After hearing we together decided that it is right thing to do for me to quit, so I did. This was the conclusion that I had come to in three days of contemplation by myself as well. In a sense it was a relief.

My identity is based on truth, and that’s my part of the story. For me it cost my work and position immediately. I had been working for that company for more than 5,5 years and intended to do so in the future.

Of course my mind I also had other aspirations every now and then. One is to see where I could go by myself as an entrepreneur. Now I’ve that opportunity which I intend to take.

Davind Goggins has challenges in his book. First challenge is about bad hand. So what else has been holding me back in my life? What is my bad hand?

I don’t need to think about this, I know this:

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Picture is more powerful than the words. However, my physical body has had serious effects on my mentality as well. Mostly I am ashamed of my body and keloid acne scars, which have become a symbol for ugliness, unworthiness and failure for me.

There has been a little success in in treating those scars physically. Cortisol helped to the ones on my shoulders, however the ones on chest did not much budge after two or three shots of it.

Eventually I’ve tried to accept them as part of me. Even so, they affect me. I am a prideful person and I would not liket o put myself into situations where I need to be. I don’t like to be around strangers shirtless at all. At times I’ve tried to condition myself for such occasion as well, sometimes succeeding better than others. However as long as they are physically there, they remind to myself of my own unworthiness which is the story that most frequently pops into my mind.

Now what this Goggins does it to recall my fighting spirit towards that which I hate most in my life. It’s not even the physical appearance, but the weakness and perceived social status that hurt me the most I think.

As a cure for myself I decide that the story must be rewritten. Let the truth be myself. I’ve noticed that even so I may fear death. And what if death actually comes and I’ve not faced the fear of death?

I have, several times. Yet when it comes to the fear of losing my face, fear feels overwhelming.

Question is, what I am going to do about it?

There are some things in life which we can do. Some actions produce desired results, others do not.

Doctors and people around me have been helpless in perceiving and easing my suffering. What is left there, but to help myself?

I’ve felt deeply guilty of these scars and of myself. In the past 32 years they’ve shaped me in both good and bad. In good, they’ve lead me on the path to grow in other ways. In bad, they’ve left me isolated and fearful of what might happen if and when I’ve to face the reality.

I can only embrace what I’ve: a healthy body with a few scars. Scars that are physical reflection of my mental and emotional pain that I felt at that time. From doctors I have not received understanding how the scars became to be, however I know for sure that those are the physical reflection of anxiety, stress, isolation that I felt at that time about fifteen years ago. All that combined with aimlessness and bad habits created that physical expression that lasts probably as long as I live.

What is done is done, all that is left is for me to embrace who I am and what I can do for the world. There is nothing more left to say than just do (challenge #2), I don’t believe that no thing more than these two things are currently stopping me from being me at my best.

Truth hurts, only once. Lies frequently.

Perfection is a myth. Most of the trees are crooked. It’s about life after the crookedness that matters the most. Better to view the crookedness with light, that allows healing to happen.

What is your bad hand?

Joy and energy to you!

Janne

P.s. Those who are suffering with body image problems I highly recommend Brene Brown book Gifts of Imperfection.

What You Are Grateful of Will Increase

Our experience of life is where are attention is.

What could you be doing instead of judging, worrying or complaining?

You could be grateful.

You could be joyous.

You could be creative.

Mostly when we feel lack, we are creating the scarcity for ourselves. We do not see how abundant the present moment is.

Being grateful is possible when you have nothing. In fact what ever is our circumstance, we have quite a bit of control over our own focus. We can decide what to focus upon: is it what is good, is it to the opportunities or is it to the negative. It’s our choice and our power.

Where and how we focus, that will increase.

Thank you for your attention, joy and energy to your life!

Janne

Service is the Best Marketing

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Simplest and most satisfying definition for service is in Cambridge Dictionary as “provision of a public need.”

Essentially the idea of service is to understand what people need and then serving that.

Bhavad Gita (as well as many other eastern and western tradition) have this concept of selfless service. In Bhagavad Gita it’s clearly explained that it’s selfless service that no new karma is born. Selfless service is a form of practice (Karma yoga or “yoga of action”) through which you can even consider practice to lessen the burden of karma.

In a selfless form you do not even expect any results out of the service. So in a sense it is a pure way of giving and serving.

In reality of course we are not able to devote total of our time to selfless service. There are some shorter term needs and solutions to be solved, such as livelihood or today’s meal for example.

Of course as brilliant creative minds we can solve this problems in time and for everyone. These are not problems that cannot be solved or and greatly delayed. In fact for many people it has already been possible and for many more especially the delay is already quite substantial.

Marketing is not a problem, marketing wrong things in a wrong time for wrong people is a problem and waste.

In many systems there are waste, something that is unnecessary to cause the desired effects. Then there are positive examples too. People are amazing by nature as long as they keep open mind and desire to learn for the good of as many as possible (“greater good”).

Sometimes service is communication, sometimes is more subtle.

Marketing is human, because it is about understanding the needs of people in deep way in order to service them in a deeply gratifying way.


Joy and energy! 🖖

Janne

From Taking to Giving

 

Mature men and women are givers. Immature people are takers.

Mature people seek to give value, where as immature people are looking what to take and gain.

For men, it is difference between boy and man psychology. For women, between girl and a woman psychology.

In the book series King, Warrior, Magician & Lover, Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette focus more on the mature masculine psychology and how that happens i.e. how a boy dies and becomes a man. Traditionally it has been through rituals in the guidance of elder wise men acquainted with the sufficient knowledge. Writers also point out that most modern societies have transformed many of these rituals into mere impotent ceremonies, which do not have sufficient energy to make the transition.

As example they use a scene described from the movie Emerald Forest where a boy dies during the ritual in the deep jungle and when the sun rises, is born anew as a man.

In the book series also work with the shadow forms are emphasized before starting deeper work. Each archetype has two shadows. So a hero boy could be a bully or a coward, which is then further transformed into a mature warrior archetype which has also it’s shadows the sadist and the masochist.

I’ve found the framework inspiring for my personal development and growth. Through my life I’ve been able to recognize moments where the thoughts, words/lines or actions have actually been categorized as shadow work versus being fully mature. These are exceptionally educative moments.

Sometimes shadow do take us over, and when that happens we have to be ready. Shadows are part of us, and in a healthy mind they become part of the whole. “Not too much, not too little.”

Healthy psychology and healthy giving is like that as well. When we give too much we make people weak. When we take too much, we become weak.

Giving should also be focused on more lasting giving.

When eating a fruit, how often do you thank the person who planted or nurtured the fruit tree? Or picked that fruit up?

Nature contains many blessings even without us. I live in Finland and Finnish forests are abundant of various berries during summertime. Having lived in countryside for my childhood, I’ve learned to respect everything in the nature. Few days ago I realized that I could be doing still much better work in my present life and condition and I should. Let this be my lesson and decision to start contributing more towards the nature from this day onwards.

What are value you going to give and how?

 

RICH DON’T WORK FOR MONEY

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Definition of rich is literally and simply that of do you work for the money or does the money work for you. Being rich isn’t defined by the amount of money you have, but by the way that you are using the money what you have. In the way you think about the money is the way you use the money.

Being rich is mindset and behavior of money use.

Rich people do not work for the money, they make money work for them.

To make money work for you, you have to recognize few essential terms. First there is income, which is all the money that is coming in. Then there are expenses, which are all the money that are going out of your pocket.

Next two are a little bit more difficult: assets are all the things you own that bring you income (after expenses). Liabilities are all the things that cost you money time and time again.

Essentially becoming rich is about acquiring assets and getting rid of liabilities. Once you have enough assets you have regular income, which is called cash flow. When you have sufficient amount of cash flow per month, let’s say 2000 € and your liabilities are at zero you are pretty well covered.

In order to get and create assets your greatest asset is your mind. Invest in yourself and your learning.

“Study hard so you can find a good company to buy.” – Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad Poor Dad

I might add work and study hard in order to find or create a good company to buy.

What ever you are doing in your life, do it to learn more. Do not let the money entice you, remember who is the master and who is the servant. Money is your servant and you are the master. Therefore always work to learn.

Always speak kindly of the money as well. Money will come to those who will speak kindly of it. Who would like to work for a bad master?

As you learn all the time quicker and quicker. You’ll learn creative ways to create more money out of nothing. This is where all your learning is aimed at.

At first you’ve little or nothing and you are not asking for any money. You are not asking for any money, because you are not the servant of money. You are the master of money who is learning the ways of the money. The more you learn the ways of the money, the more you’ll make the money work for you. The more you master money, the more opportunities will come to your way.

Remember: be the master of money. To master money, you’ll need to learn, learn and learn. Learn everything about the money and speak kindly of it. Perhaps some money will come to your way and you will be grateful for it. For now you know, it will work for you as long as you’ll remember to take good care of it.

Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche

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What do you think when the word Warrior appears to you?

For Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, it is men such as Mohandas Gandhi and Martin Luther King jr.

Not quite what you had in mind? Perhaps there is still something to learn about the mature male psyche.

Warrior is easily linked with aggressiveness and destructiveness. While those are important qualities of a warrior, real warrior is not purely set out to destroy. Real warrior is there to set out to destroy what doesn’t work and construct what is right in the world. Real warrior is both creator and a destroyer, a man with a mission to build and expand.

Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche is a book about the Warrior archetype of a masculine psyche, how to access it and why.

I cannot recommend this book as standalone, you should first read the outlining book: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature. However, once you have read that I highly recommend this.

Warrior within resonates with Stoic philosophy and thinking: “The buck stops with you. Prepare yourself. Step forward. Accept your Warrior responsibilities. Fit your talents and responsibilities to the arena or theater that seems to need you the most.”

Warrior energy should be put to work to take responsibility, destroy that which doesn’t work and then to expand and construct that which is needed.

Meaning is Life Force

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The more I think about it, the more convinced I am about the necessity for meaning in our lives.

Meaning given by others is ever fading and does not feel meaningful.

Meaning understood by ourselves, is ever strengthening.

The difference in here comes in our belief system. In latter example we are connected to the meaning through our own thought and cognitive processes: we’ve asked the necessary questions to understand and connect the meaning of this moment to the next and previous moments.

In the first example on the other hand, we adopt the meaning given by others without many questions. Because we have skipped this vital phase we tend to forget what we did in the first place and why. Moreover, even when we remember the why we are still at the surface level, although we should dig at least five times with why to get somewhere.

What is your meaning of life and what can you do about it today?

I think feeling fulfillment today about the meaning of life is a key. We can teach ourselves to find it in the moment. When we are doing this, we are all good: meaning gives us energy to work and through work we put energy back to it.

Success, Goals and Achievement

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How do you know you are successful without any metric, a goal?

Goals matter, because they put us to think. We need two kinds of goals: goals that push for incremental improvement as well as stretch goals, which push us to think in entirely new ways.

Goals do not need to be set in stone. In fact, when and once your understanding deepens the goals get more accurate and you start to realize what you really need to do.

Common denominator for your goal and the “success”, is you. You are always there, you are the vehicle that goes from being something, to being something else. This is why the ancient wisdom to ‘know thyself’ works so well.

Greatest achievement you can achieve, is that of self. Then you can go where ever you want.

All the goals you pursue teach you valuable skills on the way to self-mastery.

Self-mastery is abundant state, you are able to give more out of yourself than you have to take. Because of this abundant state, it means you are able to generate more good karma than bad. You reach a state of sustainable fulfilment. You understand that it is your actions that have causality and you choose to take action that have more positive causalities than negativities.

Thus the highest form of achievement, is that of self.

Ask yourself: what kind of goals you have set for yourself? Why? And what you will learn on the way towards these goals.

What would be your ideal life? What are you lacking? How can you practice virtues?