Building Positive Momentum

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When life goes well, let it be that way.

Change is such a buzzword. Change happens all the time. If you think about it in our experiences we tend to think change either as a) good b) bad.

Depending in the culture you are living in, you might have more or less bias towards action. Some cultures prefer a lot of action right away where are others are more of the ‘wait and see’ types.

There is no right or wrong.

When it comes to living a life where you feel good because of your actions, you’ll need to learn to recognize what is desirable and focus your limited actions to reinforcing that good. Often times no action is required: when things are well – let them be.

Too often we sabotage our own wellbeing.

Action is not always the best solution. Sometimes inaction is good solution too.

Do not confuse inaction with laziness, that’s a different breed. You’ll need to learn to recognize what kind of action creates waste and what kind of action creates value.

Either you need to focus on building more and more value, or find someone to who your waste is value. These both are rather good options.

You have limited time and focus. Use these limited time and focus to build something meaning, something positive and reinforce that positive momentum.

Once you’ve the positive momentum going, do not touch. Just seek to build on it. Build on every success you’ve, one brick at a time.

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Values: connection & disconnection

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For what you value, you must sacrifice.

I’ve made changes in my values in the past six months. Due to this decision I begin to experience the price, and the sacrifice in my social life: the feeling of value with some people have begun to feel less meaningful and less valuable.

I’ve found different meaning and it’s no longer in the same direction.

Decision have to be made.

Values are meaningful. Shared values help us to work toward common goal.

If perception to the previously shared values changes, then the relationship changes as well.

What I thought was very positive change for me, has caused quite a bit of suffering. Is a positive change then a desirable? Is this temporary pain worth it?

I’ve comforted myself with the thought that nothing great is born without pain.

Besides I’ve chosen to update my values because I want something better. Yet in so called short term this feels surprisingly painful.

Long term or short term perspective?

Even from pain one seeks relief. At least hope. Is there hope?

Higher levels values, create higher level order.

Lower level values create chaos.

So by embracing and determining my values again, I’ve set out to feel the suffering now in order to create something greater. Example of great people have shown that the higher level values might not even be appreciated by the present state society. Only the future generation may grow to that level of maturity to appreciate.

About such greatness I do not know nothing. All I know, that I hope I must find and to create order I must continue.


Thank you for reading!

For greater context I can recommend Jordan B. Petersons 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote Against Chaos –book. It’s a book that I’ve read three times now in the past five months. I’ve found several ideas from that book to put in the practice and I believe I continue to discover so.

Now lately I feel like I want to connect with as many people as possible, globally so therefore I’ve chosen to continue my blog in English.

Janne

Short term solutions for a long term problems

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 Job.

Job won’t solve your financial problems.

Robert Kiyosaki defined job as acronym for “just over broke.”

In the same way there are many other problems in your life that are really short term solutions. Friday after work perhaps?

Instant or delayed gratification? Instant is enticing because it’s instant.

Delayed gratification does not have any guarantees and it’s difficult to see the feedback between action now and results later. If you want to see, you have to do and act.

We gravitate towards short term solutions because they bring pleasure now.

Why do we seek results instead of learning the means of production for the results?

For the long term, what are the results you would like to consistently produce? How you could do it?

Could you do it without actually doing it?

Work for love

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I heard this cliche “Do what you love, and you’ll never work another day in your life.”

And then I began to think: Work is the ability to get the desired results.

Why not to work for love instead? If you work for love, you’ll find what results the world needs and are able to give it.

Life is about giving after all.

Work to love.

“You can’t burn out as a giver, as long as you see the impact you create.” – Adam Grant

Remember though that you cannot give what you do not have. You’ve to take care of yourself first. It’s your own well being that limits your giving. The more you take care of yourself, the more you are able to give.

Work on yourself also to give more.

The more you give, the more you’ll receive in the end.

However, do not give to receive. Do not attach to the fruits of your labor. Attachment causes suffering.

Practice to give without an attachment. That is unconditional love. You’ll learn to love the process of giving, giving is joy in itself. And if something comes back that is joy as well.

Then life will be a pleasant surprise.

Work for (unconditional) love.

Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche

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What do you think when the word Warrior appears to you?

For Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, it is men such as Mohandas Gandhi and Martin Luther King jr.

Not quite what you had in mind? Perhaps there is still something to learn about the mature male psyche.

Warrior is easily linked with aggressiveness and destructiveness. While those are important qualities of a warrior, real warrior is not purely set out to destroy. Real warrior is there to set out to destroy what doesn’t work and construct what is right in the world. Real warrior is both creator and a destroyer, a man with a mission to build and expand.

Warrior Within: Accessing the Knight in the Male Psyche is a book about the Warrior archetype of a masculine psyche, how to access it and why.

I cannot recommend this book as standalone, you should first read the outlining book: King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature. However, once you have read that I highly recommend this.

Warrior within resonates with Stoic philosophy and thinking: “The buck stops with you. Prepare yourself. Step forward. Accept your Warrior responsibilities. Fit your talents and responsibilities to the arena or theater that seems to need you the most.”

Warrior energy should be put to work to take responsibility, destroy that which doesn’t work and then to expand and construct that which is needed.

What Would Happen If You Bought Investments and Assets Every Month?

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Asset is something that brings you regularly income.

Investment is something which returns you more cash than the invested cash.

What would happen in your life if you found every month to invest in or an asset to purchase?

Numbers tell. You would have increasing income each month over time of course.

Idea is simple, yet it’s not practiced. Reasons are for example that people do not have definitions for asset or an investment right.

Stocks as such are not investments, they are portfolio ownings. However there are exceptions such as when you own companies that pay dividends (return money to their owners and if this happens consistently you may have an asset.  Good thing to remember that the reason companies pay dividends is that they return money to the owners, meaning that they do not have better investments for the money. In a sense now it’s your responsibility again to seek for a gainful investments or assets.

Therefore in the end it’s our own responsibility to find gainful assets and investments consistently. Every month is a good place to start. Once you form a habit out of it will become easier.

Amor fati and no excuses

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Whatever is right, whatever is wrong. Your life is what it is. Make the best out of the reality that is.

You live only once, make that count.

You are create value with your conscious choices. Some are easy, others are not.

You will learn about the people who will support you and who do not. Learning is good. Make sure you will remember the lessons.

Remember what counts. Once you do, do not make any excuses: force yourself to think and implement solutions. Think what you can do today to achieve your goals?

Anything that has happened to you should be used as material for the success that you are about to experience. That’s all you have.

Wants consume your energy. Try to find out about your needs. What is necessary? Fulfill your needs instead of your wants. Your needs are few, love and embrace that.

Excuses for not getting there are plenty, yet you are in control. Focus your energy to thinking how you can do and you will find a way.

Present is a Choice

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We go through all ranges of emotional states of being in the present moment. Present is all there is. All the joy all the suffering of life: present.

Your life is where your attention is.

Because present moment is all there is, our presence skills determine how we shape our future present moments. It’s all about our observations and reactions to these observations that cause subsequent present moments.

Within reactions there are three levels:

  1. thought
  2. speech
  3. action

First you need to recognize are you reacting in automatic or conscious way? Conscious way to react is very limited per day. It takes mental effort and puts strain on us. On the other hand automatic reactions are rather effortless and quick.

Forming automatic habits take time and more importantly repetitions. With 100 repetitions you might’ve formed some kind of habit. With 100 I would feel more safely to say it is a habit.

With presence skills you are able to shape your life in your desired direction. Keep in mind that we are all limited and thus vulnerable. Be forgiving to yourself. Direction, and repetition and keeping at it will get you towards anything you desire.

Life is short and there are no guarantees of getting there. Doing a little by little, every day and you will proceed surely. Leverage your strengths.

Present is you choice, how will you use it?

 

 

 

 

Focus on what matters

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Words Choose Yourself, appeared in my mind a few days ago when I was brushing my teeth. For the past few that years I’ve been aware of James Altucher, I’ve somewhat have had defenses against reading his books or blogs. Now that the title of his books appeared to me from somewhere depths of my mind, I rather quickly decided to buy it and read it.

“Only think about the people you enjoy.
Only read the books you enjoy, that make you happy to be human.
Only go to the events that actually make you laugh or fall in love.
Only deal with the people who love you back, who are winners and want you to win too.” – James Altucher, Choose Yourself

What James describes here is invaluable. I’ve had fraction of this in use, as I’ve read books that I enjoy. Applying the same principle to the life as a whole is something that I haven’t even considered. Best ideas often are simple, yet not used often enough.

Memento mori, remember you are mortal. Your time is limited. Your attention is limited. Be wise to choose what to give your attention to.

What you focus on grows and gets stronger. Only focus to that which matters to you and it will grow.

Thank you for reading!

Janne

Never give up on your story

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Live your story every day. There is always an opportunity to work towards what you want to be if you choose so.

Remember what you do now, determines your future present moments. What your present happiness or suffering has been caused by actions that have happened before either by you or someone else. Be mindful of what you do and what effects your actions have.

Your deeds have meaning, even more so than you can see. To you the meaning is what you choose to perceive and see. Sometimes we are biased to either negative or to the positive. Sometimes we see what we want to see. We should train our minds to see the present as it is, not as we wish it were. Then we should train ourselves to love the world as it is, love ourselves as we are.

We do not have anything else than the present moment.

You are part of a greater story do not forget that. Your choices make up that story little by little. Small consistent actions through your days will have more impact than you can imagine. Keep on contributing to your story, keep on adding.

The most important and valuable things and thoughts in your life shouldn’t go a day without your attention. That what is important, shouldn’t be left without your attention.

Remember what really matters and do it.